DAVEY & ME
OUR BEAUTIFUL FAMILY
How does a stay-at-home mom make her 24/7 job manageable?
I’m a stay-at-home mom. I don’t play golf, but i do like doing other things, though. I like reading, surfing the internet, watching tv, i even like ballroom dancing! but, since my job is 24/7 occupation, i rarely get the chance to do the things i like doing the very moment i feel like doing them.
I opted to become a stay-at-home mom. Hence, it has become my first priority to make sure i accomplish all my chores before getting into the stuff i like doing. Oh, don’t get me wrong, I don’t regret the choice i made. I am content with my life. When I made the choice, I took into myself the responsibility that goes along with the decision. That’s a natural thing. It’s just a matter of being able to manage time wisely. That’s what I do, plan my activities everyday so I can have the time to enjoy myself after all the work has been accomplished. And the 24/7 load of work? i’m in love with it!
When you look at yourself on the mirror, what is the first thing that comes into your mind?
Well, of course, most of us would initially consider the physical attributes. But look beyond that… are you happy and contented with yourself? Do you feel that you are perfectly satisfied with what you see and feel deep inside about yourself? The basic question is: Do you actually respect yourself?
As we go along our day-to-day life, we come across people who display disrespectful attitude towards others. For instance, while driving along the street, there goes one car that just swerves right in front of you. In a grocery store, you fall in a long line, and here goes one who squeezes into the line, right in front of you, just to avoid going all the way to the end of the line. Even in simple conversations, there are people who just say anything to offend others, totally disregarding the feelings of the person they are talking to.
We wonder to ourselves why there are people who do this. How can some people be so rude, so disrespectful? Do they feel happy with what they do?
Respect comes from within. If a person cannot start respecting himself, then it would be impossible to show respect for anybody else. Respecting yourself is actually loving yourself…and if you love yourself, happiness is within you. You believe that you are a person who deserves to be respected by others, and therefore, will do the same for them.
Imagine how happy and peaceful this world would be, if every human being had self-respect… Nobody would have the desire to cause pain and suffering, simply because each person respects himself enough to believe that he doesn’t deserve to be hurt by anybody..
"if you want to be respected by others, the great thing is to respect yourself. Only by that, only by self respect will you compel others to respect you" – Fyodor Dostoevsky
I had been employed continuously for like 14 years of my life. During those years, I could never imagine myself having no work and staying at home all day long, all year round… it scared me! I had been so accustomed to being in the office 9 hours a day, and coming home in the afternoon or at night just to get some rest, and then get up early again the next day to go to work, as usual. That was my way of life…and that was my choice.
About 8 months ago, I finally made the decision to change my way of life, to stay at home and attend to the needs of my family, permanently. In the beginning, it was tough. We had a househelp at that time. Everything at home was done for us all day long. It was so b o r i n g and I felt sooo useless! Everyday was a loooong day for me! That horrible experience moved me to make a decision to do my own chores. So I began doing a few things at the house by myself. Little by little, I found myself attending to more and more than what I usually expected the househelp do for us. Everyday seemed to become busier and busier. Until the time came when I realized that we didn’t need help any longer, and that I could easily teach my kids to become responsible for little things that they could do, mostly for themselves, anyway.
Today, I am a full-fledged stay-at-home-mom, and I will never regret a single day in this path that I have chosen. My children and I have become very close to one another… and THAT is much more than I ever bargained for! Our time together is oh so valuable to me! I realized that I had missed out a whole lot of their lives, and had a lot of catching up to do for all the years that I had been employed.
I’m very thankful that I had been given the opportunity to do the things that I am able to do now. Yes, I am thankful, too, that God had given me the time of my life to work and think about myself and my career, but if He would give me the chance to live again, I would rather ask Him to allow me to live this part of my life once more, and would promise to make this even better not only for myself, but for the people that I love the most, and most especially for Him, Who gave this life to me.